Safe to 16: A course to protect children against sexual offenders

Chapter ~ 3

Build the fortress

Our jobs as parents is to protect our children. But equally as important as teaching them how to protect themselves.

~ Jordan Sarah Weatherhead

Child abuse ring

On the 11th November 2020, Australian police arrested 16 men, including a child care worker and football coach, on charges of sexually abusing children.

There were 46 victims, aged 16 months to 15 years.

Preferential offenders, whether working alone or as a pack, are organised. There is even a manual on how to groom parents and children on the dark web. According to the Child Rescue Coaltion, the manual has been downloaded over 100, 000 times.

On the 22nd November 2020, Maori TV program Marae shared the story of four sisters who fought for five long years through the criminal justice system to bring their step-grandfather to trial for sexual abuse.

Their step-grandfather had groomed each one individually and they had no idea that they had all been abused until they became adults.

These strong and courageous young women decided to stand up, speak out and have broken a cycle of abuse.

If you have any doubts of the effects that sexual abuse has on a child, watch this story. It is heart wrenching. 

This lesson consists of two modules :

The result of inter-generational silence

Is it important to teach a child how to cross a busy road? Yes, of course! We don’t want the child getting hurt or killed by a passing vehicle, right?

Now, does the child need to know what type of vehicle could potentially hurt them? No – to stay safe the child just needs to know the rules for crossing the road.

So why haven’t parents/grandparents told their children the rules to keep them safe from sexual offenders?

In generations past:

  • As a child it was considered shameful to admit to being sexually abused.
  • Children didn’t know what the rules were.
  • Adults never spoke about ‘that stuff’
  • As the silence continued, the offending climbed higher, simply because the offenders knew they could get away with the behaviour.

Prison population for these offenders is now over 10%! Over time, more and more children have been injured – physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually.

Our children are a precious gift – a taonga.

Their sexual innocence is sacred – tapu.

So just like teaching our children how to cross a busy road, we need to ‘break the silence’.  

It’s time to start training them – simply and effectively.

Training our children and our ‘Inner Circle’

The 3rd letter of  S.T.A.R. is the letter A

A = never ALONE

As sickening as these numbers are, we know that 90% of abused children and /or their family know the offender. report that 40% of offending occurs with older siblings.

So what do we mean by ‘never alone’?

Never Alone with an older sibling or adult who doesn’t know the rules (S.T.A.R.)

As much as want to trust our protective instincts, the harsh reality is that these mongrels are master manipulators. An example of this is Larry Nassar, a former professor and doctor on the US Olympic team from 1996 to 2014. He sexually abused over 300 girls – including Simone Biles and Ali Raisman during that time.

Even with my experience as a survivor, police officer, trained investigator and criminal analyst, if you put me in a room with 100 people that had 10 child sex offenders mixed in – I could NOT pick them out!

Let everyone know in your Inner Circle that you’ve done this course and trained your children to keep safe from sexual offenders.

Remember, once you’re children are trained, they will have the confidence to tell you if anyone attempts to groom them.

A = never ALONE

It all comes down to training!
In the next chapter we’ll introduce the Whānau Agreement Plan that can initiate the conversation and ‘set the rules’ with your children and others in your inner circle.


You will be found out!

Taking the innocence of a child has life-long consequences for them.

Their lives matter and you’re stealing their future with your actions.

You have two options.

Leave the environment immediately


Seek help

Otherwise, once exposed, your life will become a lonely and isolated existence.

Contact SafetoTalk and they will guide you through the next steps.